I
was witness to one of my close associates who got the pink slip at work during
the time of recession. He withdrew into a shell and became very self-conscious.
It was like the whole world had fallen apart and he was unwilling to share
anything with his friends or family. He lost his confidence as he felt that
something drastically had gone wrong for no fault of his. He was unwilling to
accept the situation.
On
the other hand, I noticed a similar situation from a small business which got
shutdown. One of the employees took it sportingly and offered himself to work
for any menial job till he finds the right positions. I found this person
cheerful and open.
Attitude of self-conscious
There
is a constant inner turmoil going on with people who become self-conscious and
the struggle is visible in the body language itself. Each step is a defeating
step and frustration levels goes very high. If we look around we find people
who are highly miserable because they have built walls of misery and have
hidden themselves in their boundaries. Until and unless they make a conscious
effort to break the walls, nothing changes. When we understand this reality,
the walls start crumbling. Just a change of attitude, the whole world is
available.
Dependency on other’s opinions
Whenever
results were out, my uncle would come and state “so and so have scored 95% and
above”. He/She is so intelligent.
She
is tall and fair, so beautiful.
Who
has given the authority to people to certify others?. People who are used to
getting appreciative comments like this tend to become dependent on
appreciation so much that they naturally expect to be praised wherever they go
and be given special prominence. When it is not derived from the outside world,
they start becoming self-conscious and start losing out on themselves. Each one
of us are unique and talented. There is no need to be certified by others. Just
be aware as this is a subtle trap as this leads to unwanted stress and
tensions. When, we know ourselves from within, we do not depend on others
opinions.
Drop Self-consciousness
Each
one of us is immensely strong from within irrespective of whatever shape, size,
color and backgrounds we come from. We tend to forget it over a period of time.
Start with listening to the conflicting voices from within in a calm and peaceful
way. You will start building consciousness and will be able to perceive things
in the right direction as stumbling blocks and thoughts.
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