An efficient employee who is happy with the job puts in a sudden
resignation and disappears from the scene without any notice period or knowledge
transfer. This extreme unprofessionalism is due to a fallout in office romance.
The team and the company had to suffer a lot as the employee was handling
customers as well. Close relationships develop with co-workers in offices when
working for long hours and in critical projects. Many close relationships
develop to long term relationships. These long-term relationships when result
in permanency is a different game altogether.
Sometimes these close relationships turn sour. When this happens the
team mates bear the brunt as it leads to extremely inconvenient situations.
When two people in the team are not communicating with each other there will be
invisible walls built in the team and the team and project suffers in its own
way. To avoid this many companies have come up with dating rules which they
adhere to strictly. Office romances are inevitable
in many cases; however, care should be taken to see that it does not hamper
one’s professional output and personal life.
Few
tips to be aware of to handle office romance
Analyse
yourself: Many a time, when
working in office, the co-worker might be lending a helping hand when in a
senior position. This should not be confused for love. Do not jump to
conclusions. When the company is a growing company and you have a promising
future, bonding with the team helps you to deliver your best. Team members
extend their support so that rapport in the team is maintained. At such
situations, give time to yourself and the other person and make sure of your
situation and the relationship. Understanding the depth of the relationship
will help one to move on or to go deeper into the relationship. Start
socialising outside of your work and with other friends so that you get a
better understanding of your relationship.
Do
not create scenes: When you
start a relationship with a co-worker, see to it that you do not bring in your
personal issues during office working hours. Both the people should handle the
situation with care and maintain professionalism and see to it that office work
is not disturbed. Throwing tantrums and fighting over petty reasons due to
previous personal disagreements should be completely avoided. Keep all these
issues to be handled outside of office. Do not get carried away by personal
issues as you have joined office to deliver your services or to explore your
creativity and grow as an individual and team performer and not to indulge in
creating scenes. The quality and efficiency of your work should not get
hampered. Do not send personal messages and personal e-mails using your office
phones and office mail.
NO Public Display: You may
have all the feelings of the world to the person whom you love. Do not make
your workplace as the venue to display all your affections. Display the same
professional behaviour with which you behave with other colleagues in the
office. Do not go the pretext of holding hands or calling each other nick-names
or having lunch together every day. Do not give the unsaid message in office
that you both are a single opinion when it comes to meetings and voicing out
choices. Do not use social media as a
platform if you are not prepared to answer unwanted questions by co-workers at
office. Do keep your personal life private till you are very sure of announcing
it to the world.
Know When to say “YES”: When a
relationship is budding with a co-worker in office, take care not to take it to
personal level and feel obliged to say “YES” to please the other person. This
will have a damaging effect on your career and to the other person as well. When
it comes to work related decisions, do take the best decision in the interest
of your office. Always keep office matters and personal matters with a very
clear boundary. Let the love of your life know it and implement it right from
the beginning. At the beginning of the relationship itself, make it clear so
that there will be no hassles as you walk down the path. If you want to please the person, do it
outside of office. Maintain professionalism at office. Do not expect or give
personal favours to keep your love-life going strong.
Move on with Dignity: In spite
of all the best efforts some relationships will end. Accept the fact and do not
expect the team or the boss to take your side. Remember for the company both of
you are important and your role contribution is also equally important. Do not
risk your career with unprofessionalism just because a relationship has ended.
Many of them start pointing fingers at co-worker’s innocent remarks. One is
already hurting from inside. When you look around you feel that everyone is
accusing you or gossiping about you. It may not be the case as you are limiting
yourself to one perspective. Even if you feel someone is deliberately trying to corner you, address the situation by
having a one-to-one talk and clear up the mis-understanding or make your point
clear. This will send out signals to others as well that they focus on work and
not on your personal matters. Running away from office is not always the
solution. Behave with dignity, yes a relationship has soured. That does not mean
it is the end of the world. It is a beginning to start a new journey. Move on,
life does not end with just one soured relationship. Even if you feel, you need
to move away from office as it is affecting your work, do so after seeing to it
that a replacement has been found and you did not put the company at discomfort
because of your breakup.
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